Can't think of any.

Independence has always been cherished by everyone. Teenagers want to be independent, move out of their homes and live with friends. Women want to be independent, work and like to be able to get what they want. Men like to be independent, in their thoughts and actions. Children want to be left alone. Older people hate relying on their children for all they need. There is so much talk of independence and space going on all around me and to be honest I take part in it as well, sometimes.

This made me wonder... If all of us want to be independent, why are we together? I think the best form of independence is to be all by yourself, no ties, no bondage... You are completely on your own. Still, the very thought is scary and it sends shivers down my spine.

I wonder, is this a game that we play so we fit in with the rest of the world? I know some men and women who genuinely prefer being on their own and are always appreciated for the 'bold' stance that they have taken. Their lives have the positives too... They can plan their days around themselves and their jobs, they can take vacation when they feel like it, they have no PTA meetings to go to, no first aid to be done, no phone calls to be made, none to be answered... On the down side, they have no one to go home to, no one to spend the time with, extreme loneliness, really... Its hard to decide which one is the way to go...

If you all are wondering why I am musing loud about this it is because of a conversation I had with someone. Lets name this someone as 'X' and for convenience it is a 'he.' :) So, X wanted to know how I would maintain my independence after (if) I get married. I thought about it while munching on a well made toast... The answer is, I can't decide on my own. I tell him that I will have to draw a line on most things... It will be inappropriate for me to want to or even consider living life like the way I do now. I mean, I am all for a woman working after marriage and all that. But, how do people manage both family and work? I am freaking out at the thought!!! I mean, I have had my life easy up until now. No one to cook for, no ones laundry to be done, no dishes, no cleaning up after people, no planning the monthly budget... And all these things gets added to your life overnight!

Conversation with X was an eye-opener. It made me realize a lot of things and also accept many more. He leaves the breakfast table with a glint in his eye. And the parting shot is " I thought as much!" What ever that means, I do not want to know X! I don't know why this piece is on my blog. Strange, huh?